Article III; Series: ‘We are Here‘
( Yesterday you read one aspect of this beautiful life wherein it was seen that self-acceptance is vital. Today, I am sharing the other aspect of this life wherein you will see faith, determination, and conviction in God’s plan make everything possible. Struggle is just a part of life; life is way broad than what we think it is.)
“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” – Phil Donahue
The story of ‘HER’ life begins…
This is a true story about a young and vibrant girl who was loved immensely by her father; however, equally loathed by her mother.
Her name was Ramya (name changed). Ramya’s mother didn’t leave any stone unturned to make Ramya feel miserable. She used to make her little girl feel bad about her gender. The mother showered her boys with all the love so much that she had none left for her darling daughter.
This little girl was bright and did fairly well in her school but that didn’t matter to the mother since the mother only wanted the daughter to do domestic chores and run errands.
Her life took a sad turn when her father passed away, she was just 15. He was her only support. She became hopeless and was in complete despair.
She managed to balance her school and home until 12th class.
When in college, she fell in love with a boy who took good care of her and loved her deeply. They were in a beautiful relationship. At last, she seemed content with her life; after all, she was given love and attention which were completely missing at her home.
Everything was going fine in her relationship until one day when the guy told her that he has decided to marry a girl of his family’s choice. He didn’t even take a stand for her. She felt that he had taken advantage of her and dumped her like a piece of trash.
This episode broke her in ways that were inexplicable. This was a big blow for her self-confidence and self-esteem.
She started becoming depressed, anxious and gradually developed a skin condition called Psoriasis.
Her life continued to be a vicious downward spiral which she couldn’t seem to get out of.
In due course of time, she became so depressed that she started to think about ending her life.
One day Ramya’s best friend – Anusha (name changed) , invited her over to spend some time with her to make Ramya feel better. That night Ramya stayed over at Anusha’s place. Both of them spoke for a long time before hitting the sack at around 3 am.
Ramya, however, couldn’t fall asleep. She, therefore, stepped out quietly and went to the other room. Rummaging through her bag, she found a little pouch which she had been carrying for a few days now.
This was the right time she thought. She emptied the contents of the pouch and consumed them all in one go.
After sometime Anusha woke up and found Ramya missing. She stepped out to locate Ramya and was shocked to see Ramya in an unconscious state, lying on the floor with froth coming out of her mouth.
She quickly called up the hospital and got her admitted. It took a while for Ramya to recuperate and feel better. However, psychologically she was still weak.
Anusha desperately wanted to help her best friend. She, therefore, fixed Ramya’s appointment with a well-known psychologist.
After a few sessions, Ramya began to feel more relaxed and more in control of her life.
After she had completely recovered, her mother decided to get her married off.
Someone from Ramya’s distant family gave a reference of a boy who was of marriageable age and had a decent job too. He along with his family went to meet Ramya and her family. He was happy to meet her and the families seemed to agree too. However, no one from Ramya’s family disclosed her illness.
The next day Ramya decided to call up the guy to tell him about her skin condition. She told him that she suffers from psoriasis because of which her skin appears fine for a few days and then becomes flakey and dry.
He appreciated her honesty and decided to marry her for the strength of her character.
Ramya has now been married for over 4 years and has recently been blessed with a baby girl.
She is at a blissful juncture in her life. She feels all that she went through made her a stronger person. Ramya now works as an Assistant Professor in a Government college. Her husband genuinely cares for her and she is living a life that she had never dreamt of!
At the moment, she regrets the day she decided to commit suicide.
She has a completely different take on life now. She is full of hope and positivity and looks forward to spending her life with her husband and daughter.
Takeaways from Ramya’s poignant story:
* Life isn’t always easy or fair
*Avoid trusting strangers blindly.
*Being emotionally dependent on just one person might not be such a good idea.
*Try not to lose hope when in despair
*Allow people to help. If you feel helpless and hopeless, don’t think twice before contacting a professional.
Anecdote mouthed by Ramya (name changed) and given words by-
Ms. Sudesh Pathania
Astt. Prof.- Communication &Soft Skills
Deptt. of Humanities & Social Sciences